Healthy Approaches to Dealing With Your Spouse During a Job Loss
A job loss is a tough time, not only for you but also for your spouse. Here are a few tips to help you deal with your spouse in a healthy way during a job loss.
Look at Things from Their Perspective
Remember that your job loss will not only effect you, but will most definitely also affect your spouse. If you have a dual income home then the financial responsibilities will now fall solely on your spouse. That is a lot of responsibility to take on overnight. If you are the main income provider, then your job loss is going to shift your spouse into a state of uncertainty. Looking at things from their perspective will help you show compassion when things feel challenging.
Don't Dramatize the Situation
Although you may be tempted to throw a pity party, fight that temptation. When you wallow in self pity, all you accomplish is throwing everyone around you into a state of insecurity as well. And remember, when your pity party is over, you will have to deal with all of the anxiety your provoked in everyone else. Even if you are feeling very overwhelmed and insecure your self, try to maintain a positive outlook for the sake of your spouse. This is will go a long way to ensure the long term confidence of you both.
Sometimes our anxiety and insecurity will express itself as anger and aggression. If this happens, don't be too hard on yourself or your spouse. Forgive yourself and your spouse and move on. Remember where the negative feelings are coming from and remember that things will improve.
Your spouse is your partner in the good times and in the bad times like a job loss. Work as a team to get through this tough time together.